The truth is that you are allowed to pursue what’s right for the person you are now, and then you are allowed to pursue something else for the person you will one day become.You do not have to exist within the confines you set up for yourself.
A true perfectionist thinks “perfect” is all the things they don’t have or all the things they have to do. They set unrealistic expectations for themselves, which leads to mental breakdowns and burnouts.
The biggest lesson I learnt when it came to failing was my 7 and a half year relationship ending at the same time I sold my business I grew from the ground up.
When you’re born, like literally an infant - you have no ego, no fears, no worries - you are your truest self. Things like fear, stress and anxiety are learnt as we get older and the world starts to get it’s hands on us.
Procrastination is a habit that is learnt. When you tell yourself you ARE a procrastinator you are allowing it to become a label that attaches itself to your identity. It’s easier to unlearn a behaviour or habit than it is to remove a label from your identity.
You are too valuable of a human being to waste so much time being unhappy. Respect yourself and love yourself by controlling yourself. Don’t allow yourself to get sucked into something that isn’t worth your time or energy.
No one wants to give up on something that they have been pursuing for years. No one wants to leave the person they have always envisioned their future with. No one ever really wants to admit defeat. Because all those things mean you’ve failed, right?
You will not remember the days when you were just “okay” and “happy.” You will remember the moments of joy, and the pangs of ache, and the things that were defining and changing and miraculous and incredible and made you feel alive.
Let the low times in your life usher in the times when you fly higher than you’ve been before. This is your life—it’s time to stop being so hard on yourself.
We lose ourselves among that everyday chaos and impatient rush between the briefest of moments to the next, and we so effortlessly take everything we have and are for granted.
